Did you know planning a wedding can be one of the most stressful things a couple can experience? All that stress can have a major impact on your big day. But why all the stress? What makes planning a wedding so stressful, and can anything be done to lower that stress? It would take the average person 15 + years to attend as many weddings as we have hosted, and because of that, we know a few things about how to make the whole process less stressful! But to take away the stress, you have to know why you are feeling stressed.
Expectations ( Plus Your Own )
Ladies! Lets be honest, you have been planning your wedding the first day you imagined who prince charming was. But you are not the only one thinking about this, every woman's mother has also, built up expectations for your big day! All kidding aside though, moms often think they know best when it comes to planning your wedding, selecting your dress and deciding on the guest list. These things immediately add stress! You can minimize these stress factors by establishing clear boundaries! Ladies, remember one thing... It is you who has to wear that dress! We often suggest writing out a plan, or a list of responsibilities for everyone involved. If you are bad at sticking to a budget, give someone else that responsibility, give someone the responsibility of meeting deadlines for decisions, maximum guest count, etc.... The roles in planning a wedding are unlimited! All great leaders delegate responsibilities!
Difficult Friends and Family Members
Oh yeah! We've all got one, you know that one friend or family member! They can make our face turn red, and our hair turns gray! How about the divorced parents who make your wedding all about how much they despise each other, "the crazy relative who demands she bring 15 guests because the family hasn’t seen each other in 10 years " <--- My personal experience, but we won't detail any of that. Look the most important thing here is to make sure you are not dealing with this on your own. Get the support of a trusted friend, your fiance', or someone who can help you. If they become too difficult, it may be necessary to set firm boundaries or remove them from the wedding altogether. But nobody wants to do that, so just becareful in this area.
Frustrating Vendors - Not Howard Johnson Though ;)
Most vendors don't act as planners, so the follow through you are desiring from them can fall short. The goal to help eliminate some stress and potentially even the relationship with the groom, is to delegate this to a trusted family member or friend! They will act on your behalf and keep those vendors in line! Another option is to hire a wedding planner, even though that is going to increase the cost of the wedding, the wedding planner has one job, and that it to help plan your wedding. Ask around, search Google, check social media for the top wedding planners in your area.
This is a pretty crucial step and even though above, I said you could delegate the budget. Coming up with the budget and knowing what the limit for your wedding is the job of you and the groom. Chances are as a couple this is about to be the biggest financial conversation you have had, and it's only the first of many after you are married. When you and the groom are out looking at vendors, or anything that deals with the wedding, and the expenses for the wedding. Just know that it is okay to step back, even go home to a private setting, to discuss it all. Alot of couples can fall for the dazzling upgrades, and be dreaming over everything that is in their wedding. But remember the sky has always been the limit for any wedding, and if you pay for the sky, you might be regretting it later.
There is no need to be a bridezilla or an upset groom. Take things as they come and openly discuss it with people close to you. Your wedding day will be something you always remember and it can be good or bad....leaving the stress at the front door, will help you create those good memories of a lifetime!